May 22, 2012

To Give or Not to Give? by Bob Lupton

togiveornottogive-article

I was challenged by this blog entry from Bob Lupton and wanted to pass his thoughts on to you…

To Give or Not to Give?

Should Christians always give money to street people who ask for it? That’s what Christianity Today recently asked three veteran ministry leaders known for their commitment to the poor.

“Yes, freely!” answers Gary Hoag, known as the Generosity Monk whose passionate mission is to encourage Christian generosity. To him it is very clear in scripture: “Freely you have received; freely give.” It is not our place to judge others, to evaluate them as worthy or unworthy of our assistance. God is the judge, not us. What they do with our aid is between them and God. We are to love and give unconditionally. Gary’s theology of generosity is summed up in his quote from contemplative priest Brennan Manning: “God’s call for each of us to live a life of unlimited generosity is rooted in his limitless love and care for us.” Through our free and generous giving “the postmodern world will see Jesus in our generosity.”

Andy Bales, CEO of Union Rescue Mission in Los Angeles, sees it quite differently. “Giving cash to someone in need is the least helpful and most temporary solution and should only be a last resort,” he says. His years of experience with street people has taught him that most panhandlers are not really homeless at all. Most are scammers who may collect $300 a day from kind-hearted passers-by and at the end of the day walk a block or two to their cars and drive home. When someone approaches Andy for money for food or a place to stay, he gives them his card and invites them to his mission where they can get not only food and shelter but other support as well. Very seldom does he give money, and then only when there are no other alternatives. Like Hoag, he too has scripture to back his position. His biblical example is the lame man who asked Peter and John for some money. They offered no money but rather something better – healing! “People experiencing homelessness and poverty need a community,” Andy says. “People need permanent help in becoming strong. They need a connection with Jesus Christ and a faith community.”

Absolutely not! So says Ron Sider, president of Evangelicals for Social Action and author of best selling Rich Christians in an Age of Hunger. A quick donation is cheap love. There is simply no way to tell whether a story is legitimate, or if a person will spend the money on drugs or alcohol. Supporting immorality, laziness or destructive behavior is simply irresponsible and clearly not a loving act. Scripture demands that we stand on the side of the poor but it certainly does not tell us to give irresponsibly. Rather than give money, Sider suggests taking the homeless person to lunch and listening to his story. “People almost always need love even more than money,” he says. Generous giving should be directed toward effective, holistic programs equipped to deal with the deeper socio-economic issues, ministries that share the love of Christ and “truly empower, liberate and transform.”

Three respected Christian leaders, all committed to helping the poor, all relying on the scriptures to guide them, each with distinctly different convictions on how to rightly serve – opposing convictions. They take their stand at opposite ends of the charity continuum, from “always give money” to “never give money.” Who’s right? Whose counsel do we listen to?

Andy Bales certainly has the most direct experience with the homeless, living and serving among them for decades. His “last resort” giving position is shaped by years of personal involvement, watching con games on the street, seeing first-hand the long, up-and-down battles of those trying to break free from addictions. Pragmatic experience has taught him that healing is far more likely in a supportive community environment than struggling alone on the street. Of course he believes it is better to steer street people toward a program like he runs. He has committed his life to it.

Gary the Generosity Monk, on the other hand, views scripture (and the world) from the ivory tower of religious academia. Not that he’s removed from humanity – he’s certainly not. He’s very engaged with the Christian community, particularly as it relates to generosity. But he doesn’t live among the broken. In one sense, his reading of scripture is purer, uncontaminated by the troubling realities of life on the street. His “yes, freely” theology of giving is fashioned around a compelling body of scriptures such as “Give to anyone who asks” and “Freely you have received; freely give” and “If you have two coats, give one.” And his examples of the extravagant giving of historic heroes of the faith are inspiring. His message is clearly directed toward an affluent church that needs for its own salvation to be freed from its bondage to material things. Giving freely is a prime way to break the strangle-hold of materialism. But is his “unconditional giving” doctrine informed by the real-life down-stream impacts of unexamined charity?

Ron Sider understands poverty from a systems perspective. He pores over statistics, scrutinizes legislative motivation and decision-making, holds up a biblical standard of justice by which to evaluate public policy and practice. He is a prophet to a nation that has subsidized poverty, eroded a work ethic through dependency-producing entitlements and decimated the family structure of the poor – all in the name of doing good. He knows better than most theologians the vast number of scriptures that deal with God’s concern for the poor. And the responsibility of God’s people to care for the widows and orphans and strangers. His plea, like the prophet Amos, is to “let justice roll down like a river.” The quick donation, whether for expediency, sentimentality or guilt-relieving, is cheap love that is neither merciful nor just. Prophets are not pragmatists. They speak in absolutes. Understandably, to Sider, irresponsible giving is just plain wrong!

Always. Sometimes. Never. Who’s got it right? I guess it all depends on the level of the platform you are viewing the poor from – ground-level practicality or elevated theological theory. Your altitude will determine your attitude.

-Bob Lupton, February 2011

A Healing Hope – Link Update

I posted the wrong (and password protected) link to our newsletter. Sorry about that. Here’s the correct link:

http://rwandaharvest.com/iem/display.php?M=1102&C=0a84045d1f087ece95e1 31da04ab5e64&S=12&L=1&N=8

Tips on “Deep Listening”

My mom passed on these tips from Andrew Weiss on deep listening:

  • Be present. Give your him/her your complete attention Be aware of what is happening inside you.
  • Be open. Put aside all your assumptions about who this person is and try to listen to who they are right now. Ask questions that convey your deep concern.
  • Stay aware of your emotions. Notice what happens to you when you are hearing something you find difficult or painful. Often someone’s issues will deeply touch our own. We need to recognize those feelings, breathe deeply, and release those feelings in order to continue listening with attention.
  • Make space. If emotions run too high, ask for a short break. This may be painful for the other person, but tell them you will be a better listener if you take some time to let your own emotions drain out and do something to feed your compassion and love.

Pales in Comparison

You know, this was actually a good week to have all of this “running around” because the challenge of clearing this container is NOTHING when compared to the challenge of enduring the genocide 15 years ago or even putting a country back together after total devastation. My few container challenges simply pale in comparison to the suffering that took place here.

This morning in worship the preacher asked, “Where was God during the Genocide?” Then he went on to ask, “Where was God when His Son was nailed to the cross?” It was powerful!

The presence of evil did not mean the abscence of God. In Jesus’ case, it mean the absolute love of a Father for His children. He had to suffer and live through the pain of death in order to truly give them life!

What a loving God we serve! He endured the cross and conquered death in order to break the chains of darkness once and for all. And although the evil one continues to try to destroy everything good that God has made, there is always hope for redemption, salvation, healing and ultimately RESURRECTION!

May you have a blessed day, knowing that He loved you enough to die in your place. Sweet Jesus, thank you!

Harvest Week

This weekend is the annual harvest Collection at RHCC. Their goal this year is to raise almost 1.4 million dollars to support mission efforts around the globe. We are praying that God will even blow that figure out of the water with people’s generosity. May His name be glorified and lifted high as people search their hearts and give.

This is a busy week for us as we lead up to the weekend. We’re enjoying so much getting to know so many families here and making new prayer friendships.

May God give us all generous hearts to live our lives for Him!

The JOY of the Lord

We sing a song based upon a passage in Psalms, “The Joy of the Lord will be my Strength.” What an encouraging thought.

Joy, the second fruit of the Holy Spirit listed by Paul in Galations, is an emotion that comes by walking in step with the Spirit. Oh, to be Spirit-filled and thus filled with JOY.

Christine and I came across a plaque in a little shop in Fredericksburg this week that we just had to buy. I’m not really a nick-nack kind-of guy but the saying on it was so good and encouraging that we bought it anyway.

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything’s perfect…It means you decided to see beyond the imperfections.”

Isn’t that powerful. I meet miserable people all of the time who are whining and complaining about how life isn’t treating them right or because they aren’t getting what they deserve. Or, they’re pointing out all of the imperfections in others, continuously criticizing everything and everyone. And you know what, there is NO JOY.

Seeing all of the imperfections in life and in others does not bring JOY. It destroys it. Maybe that’s why Paul encouraged us to take every thought captive for Christ. He also encourages us to focus on that which is good, honorable and admireable. If anything is worthy of praise, let us put our attention on such things. The Hebrew writer encouraged us to ‘fix out eyes on Jesus,’ a much better focus than all of the imperfections in this life.

Yes, the world is imperpect. It’s doesn’t take an ounce of maturity to point out all of the failings of people. It does take maturity to see the imperfect in others and still remain positive and to be encouraging.

Oswald Chambers, in his excellent devotional book “My Utmost for His Highest” suggested that the Lord allows us to see the imperfections in others not so that we would criticize or judge them, but rather so that we would better know how to interceed for them. Now there’s a novel thought. Do you see something imperfect in someone or something, PRAY!

I believe that a Joyful Spirit and a judging spirit cannot live in the same person. They cannot coexist.

Needing some joy this week? Try walking in the Spirit rather than the flesh and you may find yourselves filled with the JOY of the Lord which will strengthen you in your inner being and refresh your soul. Do you see something “imperfect” in something or someone, rather than judge and criticize, try PRAYER! Who knows, you might be filled with another fruit of the Spirit called PEACE:)

PEACE and JOY. JOY and PEACE. Now those two walk side by side.

May the JOY of the Lord be your strength today!

An extraordinary life!

The past few days we’ve been enjoying Vacation Bible School at the Southgate Church of Christ in San Angelo. Christine and I have our own tribe of 12 11 year olds. The theme this year is Elijah.

What a great man of prayer and faith. I love the part in Jame where it says that he was a man “just like us”. What made him different was that led a righteous life and he prayed. The man was “like us” but the world was changed because of his life.

My prayer is that God would use me, a ordinary person, to live an extraordinary life that changes the world around me.

I need closure!!! Or do I?

Those of you who know me, know that I crave, desire, love closure. As the years go by however, more and more things in my life remain continually open, rather than closed, decided, final. I find myself longing for a “time” when everything is “known”, “set”, or “for sure” but am realizing that even if all was known, it would not satisfy. Because once one matter is settled another opens up!

So, where do I turn for rest and peace in the midst of the “unknown” factors in my life? To the only source of true lasting peace, the Creator God Himself. I must admit that this is not a new revelation and some of you are probably wondering, dah Murphy, welcome to the planet. But for me, knowledge is one thing, applying it to my daily life, another.

Our lives as missionaries seem to be in limbo all the time. We are “between” things often and there is no rest if I have to have closure first.

These days, God is working on my heart to have peace and rest in the midst of the “unknown”, unforeseeable future. Pray for me, that I may put my knowledge to work in my heart and discover inner peace in the midst of outward uncertainty.

For you, O God, tested us..

Psalm 66:10-12. I read this this morning before I headed out to my meeting with Batoe/Sedome. As I read this I couldn’t help but think about the past few months. I believe that the Lord has been testing me. Unfortunately, I don’t think I did very well. I passed, but with a C. I was concerned about things that I should’ve trusted Him in. I said some things that I should’ve have said. And, I bent some personal principles that I should’ve stuck to.

The great thing about being a disciple of Jesus is, I get to study again and retake the test. Hopefully, next time, I’m move up to a B+:) And as verse 20 says, “Praise be to God, who has not rejected my prayer or withheld his love from me!”

Debt Free!

FREEDOM! This past December Christine and I paid the last payment on my student loan. With that payment we marked a new chapter in our lives of freedom! We have NO debt!!! We are totally excited.

I need to testify that this was made possible because of God’s great provision. I remember two specific times, in our preparation to come to the mission field, when I was praying/worrying about our students loans, a voice told me “I will take care of you! Do not be afraid!”

Both of those time I knew that this was reassurance from the Lord. In keeping with His promise, a few years ago six families from our sponsoring church (Homewood Church of Christ, Birmingham, AL) gave us a generous gift to finish off these loans.

They had asked me if we had any special needs and at that time our remaining debt was on my heart. We wanted to completely finish off our loans by the end of our time in Togo, but just couldn’t do it. I told them what I could do in the next two years AND THEY RESPONDED BY MAKING UP FOR THE REST! Praise God!

Christine and I just cried and cried when they presented us with the check. God came true on his promise by providing through these generous hearts!

We put the gift towards our student loans and began to diligently pay down what was left. As of December 31, 2006, we are FINISHED! Praise God, for He truly is the great provider!

  • Twitter
  • Facebook